Understanding Domestic Violence: How to Recognize Abuse and Where to Find Help

Ali Lass

Domestic violence affects individuals and families across every community in the United States. Learning how to recognize abuse, understanding the different forms it can take, and knowing where to seek help are essential steps in supporting survivors and preventing future harm. At Family Crisis Shelter, we provide domestic violence support, crisis intervention, emergency shelter, and advocacy for anyone experiencing violence or control in a relationship.

What Is Domestic Violence?

Domestic violence is a pattern of abusive behaviors used to gain power and control over a partner, family member, or household member. Abuse can occur in romantic relationships, parent–child relationships, and any shared living environment. It may begin subtly and escalate over time, making it difficult for victims to recognize the danger they are in.

Signs of Abuse

Abuse is not always physical. It can show up in emotional, financial, or digital forms—and many survivors experience more than one type at the same time.

Physical Abuse

• Hitting, pushing, kicking, choking, or grabbing
• Withholding food, sleep, or medical care
• Blocking exits or preventing someone from leaving
• Damaging property to intimidate or frighten

Emotional or Psychological Abuse

• Insults, humiliation, or constant criticism
• Isolation from family, friends, or support systems
• Gaslighting, manipulation, or making someone doubt their reality
• Threats against loved ones, pets, or the survivor themselves

Financial Abuse

• Controlling access to money, accounts, or transportation
• Preventing someone from working or going to school
• Stealing money or opening credit lines without permission
• Creating financial dependence to limit independence

Digital Abuse

• Monitoring texts, calls, or social media activity
• Demanding passwords or access to devices
• Using GPS tracking or spyware to monitor movement
• Online harassment, threats, or public humiliation

Key U.S. Statistics

• More than 1 in 4 women and 1 in 10 men experience severe intimate partner violence in their lifetime.
• Over 20,000 calls are made to domestic violence hotlines across the U.S. every day.
• 3 women are killed daily by a current or former intimate partner.
• Approximately 1 in 15 children witness domestic violence at home each year.

Where Victims Can Seek Help

No one should face abuse alone. Family Crisis Shelter serves individuals and families across the 58802 region with safe shelter, advocacy, crisis response, and community resources.

Learn more about our support services:

• Support Services — Emergency shelter, crisis intervention, advocacy, and more.
• Safety Planning — How to protect yourself and prepare for high‑risk situations.
• Hotline & Crisis Resources — 24/7 hotlines and statewide support services.

National Hotlines

• National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1‑800‑799‑SAFE (7233) or thehotline.org
• Text “START” to 88788 for confidential domestic violence support
• National Sexual Assault Hotline (RAINN): 1‑800‑656‑HOPE (4673)

You Are Not Alone

If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, help is available. Domestic violence is never the survivor’s fault, and support exists to help you find safety, stability, and healing. Family Crisis Shelter is here to provide compassionate, confidential assistance whenever you need it.

If you are in immediate danger, call 911.